Wednesday, December 29, 2010

As Hard As I Try...

You know some days I believe that certain individuals are trying with all their might to try and create havoc not only in their lives but other's as well. I have been on my "spiritual expedition" now for a few months. (It's my personal journey to find peace in myself and the world around me, so I'll call it what I want. :P ) Now here are the things that really gets me pissy and makes me want to do or do something that isn't so productive to the path that i would like to continue my life's journey on. 


I don't know why people can not or just flat out refuse to keep their noses on their faces. If I don't volunteer my personal information about whatever, why do some people feel the need to either ask around to other's about whatever it is that they feel they need to know about, or just keep asking me. If you are reading this and you are one of those individuals or if you are one of the individuals that keeps getting asked by others to be informed on me, please STOP! It is really aggravating and not only is it mostly inaccurate information being passed around, its NONE of YOUR business! ( I realize that this not only happens to me, but mostly everyone. So lets just say I'm speaking on behalf of everyone in general who is feed up with rumors, half-truths, and general mouth running gossipers.)


If there is something that I feel others should know, I will happily give out that information. And if you are on the receiving end of that info, please let it stop there. There is absolutely no reason that you have to be a knock-off news reporter and pass my life's story around to any and everyone that you may come in contact with. If people would respect that with me and everyone else in life, I will gladly bestow you with the same courtesy and I'm sure others will follow suit and life would be easier and more drama free for all involved. 


The Amish have a custom of not talking about any other individual if that person is not present. I think it is one of the more sensible and practical things that we could all only benefit from practicing. I know that isn't really a reality in todays society, but I think its a fabulous idea and am going to try to work it into my daily life as much as possible. But like I've said many times before, we are all only human and I'm sure like with everything else I try to do in life I will have slip ups. Hell, I will be the first to admit, that for me and many Americans gossip have become almost a national pass-time. Haha.


Another things that really gets in my crawl is rudeness! For example, If a person is a "friend" on any social networking site and I make a status or comment on MY page, and they happen to disagree or have a comment back, I wish they wouldn't be so shitty about how they comment back. I don't mind a debate with another person. I welcome those actually. I love when educated people with different opinions can have a conversation about issues that they may or may not agree on. In reality that is how some of the greatest problems have been solved. The world would be a bland place if everyone thought the same on everything. 


But what I am getting at here is people commenting back, "Oh, that is so stupid", or "You are completely wrong for believing that", or any of the other put downs they can muster up. Here is a fact plain and simple, if you don't agree with or like what another person is saying, and its not hurting any one by what their opinion is, DON'T READ IT! No where in the world does it say we have to read everything everyone puts out there. That is why this country is so great, we have freedoms and liberties that not everyone in this world has. So use that freedom, ignore what is not conducive to your success in life and refrain from negative actions toward others. 


I know many people that don't believe in the things that I do. That don't share my same sense of spirituality or mentality. That don't have my political beliefs. That just plain don't understand me in any aspect. Nor do i share their beliefs or understand them. But I do not go into their personal space and condemn or put down them. I just wish that everyone would do the same in regards to me and others. If what one personally feels is not hurting others, or they're not out there recruiting other's to spread negative actions I personally do not really give a sh*t. 


I just don't understand in general what is so hard about minding one's own business. So basically what I am asking here is, be a little more understanding with our fellow man and woman. We are all only human after all. When we really get down to the nitty gritty we are all more alike than different anyway. In MY opinion we are all God's children, we are all brothers and sisters, and we all need to just learn to love one another a lot more. So while I am trying to continue on my journey, just let me be. If you are one of those people that don't understand me, or don't get the things I say, do, or believe, then i really cant help you, but please....leave me alone and don't be out there making all kinds of derogatory statements about things that don't involve you in the first place. Not only show me that respect, but please try to be as considerate of other's as well, and I will gladly show you the same respect in return.

Sunday, December 19, 2010

It's That Time Of Year

We're (those of us who celebrate it) about 6 days from Christmas. To me, the most wonderful time of year. Not because of the materialistic aspects that some consider the only reason to celebrate, but because of the spiritual foundation that this holiday to me is all about. I've noticed that myself and others are usually in a better mood, more compassionate, giving, caring and understanding around this time of the season. (I have a theory about this too. As children most of us were told that Santa has his "Naughty and Nice List", and some where in the back of our conscious we are still trying to make right the rest of our year's misgivings and mis-happenings to get on the better half of that list. Not that we still believe in Santa, its just somewhere in us to try and be better people around this time.)


But hey, I'm not complaining, anytime or anything that makes us bring forth these qualities is a good idea to me. Christmas isn't the only holiday that presents these ideas and actions, but it is the one that is most popularly celebrated around the world. Wouldn't it be great if it came more than once a year though? I know the that Capitalist would be ecstatic and it might help stimulate the economy, but those are just secondary reasons. The celebration of Christ and the spreading of His message of Love and Forgiveness is the highlight that seems so appealing to me. 


Anything, rather if it is Christianity based or whatever religion(s) one might believe in that spreads the messages of Love, Hope, Acceptance, Tolerance, Forgiveness, Compassion, and Understanding are all right in my book and I want to embrace them with open arms and an open heart. So tis the season for all those things. May we all not only find them in the journeys are we on, but may we all embrace them and have them flood over so we can share them and bestow them upon others that might share our journeys and cross our paths. Help spread those messages, and show them year round, not just when the holiday season comes. 


So Happy Holidays everyone! I hope everyone gets what they want, and maybe a few things extra. ;) (What?, I'm just trying to help out the economy...lol)

Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Take Into Consideration

In my life process of trying to become a better person, I've learned a key point in the idea of trying to obtain this goal is taking into consideration people and the world around me in the decisions I make and the consequences they are going to have. I guess you could say that Karma has a lot to do with it, but really when i think about it to me its more than that. 


I think Karma shouldn't just be motive alone for the things that I do in life, or for anyone who believes in Karma. For example, I believe one shouldn't just go do something good on just the hope of getting better Karma for themselves. We should do good all the time just to be doing it. To be better people and make the world a better place. To show compassion and love, acceptance and understanding...not just for hopes that its going to be another blessing for us, but to want to share and create blessings for others. 


I believe when taking things into consideration, we need to take in account the big picture, not just the here and now and what is closest to us. Everyday when there is something I need to do or decide on I try and remind myself of all the possible effects my decisions or actions are going to have. Not just on me and the world immediately around me, but on others and the future. When we learn compassion for one another, and take into consideration other's feelings and circumstances we grow as people and not only are we better off for it, but the world is also. 


When we start to put other's before ourselves and our superficial needs, we are on track to turning this world around to a more positive path. And yes, I'm sure we're earning favor in God's eyes. But that favor shouldn't be motive alone, we should just want to do good just to be doing it. Just to know that we are opening our hearts to spread God's love and blessings because its overflowing with want for the betterment of all mankind. 


I know some cynical people are reading this thinking "oh, thats a nice thought but thats not the way the world works". Buy why not? Why can't the world be a better place, why can't we just have unconditional love for one another, compassion for people we've never met, the want for better for all of our brothers and sisters all over the world, and forgiveness for our's and other's trespasses? If God can show us the these things, why is it so difficult for us to do the same?


I believe we can. Its just a matter of whats really important to a person. I know its not easy to do. Nothing in this world ever is. But when you're looking at the whole picture with integrity and love as reasons enough to help guide you, there really isn't much chance of going onto the wrong path. I am a true believer of "Through God all things are possible". But in order to truly know God and do things through him, Love has to always be taken into consideration. 


Its not an easy prospect to grasps or always stay on task with, everyone has their pitfalls. It is though a matter of if we get back up, brush ourselves off, learn from our mistakes and continue on God's righteous path that he has given us all a chance to take. Everyone in life at some point or another will fall, but if we look for Love's light to guide us, we will most certainly find our way back. 





Monday, December 13, 2010

Distractions Distractions





Man oh man have i been lost in my own little world of late. I have had ADD since i can remember, it hasn't been a major problem in life, just a pain in the ass sometimes. But recently it has been overwhelming! I think the stress that has been plaguing me the last month or so is causing it to rear its ugly head. I have noticed this pattern in my life, when things become stressful, i become a hot mess and am a semi-lunatic (yes, i realize I'm not 100% sane at anytime, but i have become even more lu-lu than is even normal for me.) 


I don't like it, not one little bit and just want things to be normal again (that is my normal, lol). I haven't quite figured out yet what is the entire reason; maybe its the holidays, maybe its the weather, maybe its just a temporary laps of mentality, but i know one factor is the prospect of loosing a loved one. It all started about a month ago when my grandmother was diagnosed with a terminal cancer. It's not that I'm on the verge of some psychotic meltdown, but it is an extremely sad situation. Especially for me because of how close I am with her. 


I do know little things started to matter more to me and less to me at the same time, however weird that sounds. I now value the little moments in life more and more. But I value material possessions and money less than ever. I have put all the superficial bullsh*t on the back burner, and tried not to pay attention to it. I could have all the money in the world and all the fancy things my heart could desire, but its not going to change what God has in his plans for me or anyone else. So I'm learning to live in the here and now, and be happy with who and what God has blessed me with, and enjoy every moment i can with them. 


Though i would like to be able to finish a train of thought. Even sitting here writing this I am having a wild time trying to complete it and stay on track of what i want to say. I am thinking of a million other things i could be doing and need to be doing. None are too serious or need to be done this very second, but still its a pain in the ol' arse. I started this blog with the idea that I would try to make an entry everyday as to what my thoughts are at the moment and things that I am going through. But God has had other plans and/or distractions for me and I haven't really stayed on task. I hope I can get over this little spell of brain farts, shell-shock, and whatever else is happening right now and FOCUS! 


Until then I will continue to pray for the best, not just for myself but for everyone else in the world. Hope that we can all find peace in this wonderful life that we've been blessed to have been given a chance to make a go at. Try not to take things for granted, because nothing is. Look for those blessing in disguise and just love one another. 

Friday, November 12, 2010

Gotta Have Faith

Day 13


Sometimes Faith is all we have to get us through the day or a bad situation or time in life. Faith, combined with Love and Hope are some of strongest tools we can possess in life. They help us get through tough situations. Help us look forward to the future. Help us find the goodness in ourselves and others. (Though sometimes there is very little if any to be found in some people). 


But don't let the faults and failures of others take over and destroy the greatness that lies within you. I know personally sometimes the bad in the world gets the best of everyone, i know it does me. But i then try to find the love that i know is in me and i know is in others, and make it through righteously and spiritually intact. Evil and the generally not so goodness that can be in people and the world is like a festering contagious disease that wants to spread, infect, multiply and destroy any and everything that it can. 


Love, hope and faith are the cure. The old saying "Love conquers all" is so true. At least to my findings. It so much easier to find the bad in someone or something, but to overlook it and find the good is much more powerful and useful to everyone. Even though it is hard to do and sometimes just plain impossible. But if we search hard enough and faith is winning i know it can be achieved. 


The are situations that i am having to deal with right now, but i know that love is present and undying. I have my faith and hope to help me make it through. And even though things are tough right now, and will only be getting tougher, time heals all wounds. At least thats what i hear and i hope that its true. My grandmother who raised me and is more of a parent to me than either one of my biological parents is battling cancer. Its not looking too good and the doctors are putting her on hospice. 


I know what is going to be the inevitable outcome, but all i ask is that she has peace and does not suffer. For a woman who has devoted her whole life to her family and who has only ever wanted to give her love to make us all better people i could not bare to live and think that she is not at peace and has suffered. I honestly think that is more than i could handle. Other than my children she is the one person in this world that i love more than anything! But with that love, and my faith in God, i know she will be at home with God again. I hope that one day i too will be with them in Heaven. 


I want nothing more than her to be surrounded by love and her loved ones in the time that she has left. I know if i live a hundred more years, there is no one that will mean more to me, no one that will be there to provide an unyielding and unconditional love than my grandma. My hope and faith allows me to know that she will be at peace and without pain again when she returns home to the presence of God that i know is never ending and always there. And one day (after a long life god willing) hopefully if faith, hope, love, good karma, and my spirituality prevails i will join them also. 

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Keep it to ya self please...

Day 12


Well well, i fell out of touch yesterday and didn't make my daily post...but as the old saying goes "shit happens". I did do a lot of thinking and meditation yesterday, but providing the situations that came up i never got around to making a post. But anyhow i'm here today, and with an observation/complaint to make.


I know i have my very own strong personal opinions and beliefs (religious or otherwise) on just about everything. And i do not mind speaking out on those issues in life, on my facebook page or on this blog. But i try and draw the line at going out and thrusting those opinions on people in their private spaces or just forcing them upon anyone in general. 


We are all different and that's the way God made us and intended it be. I respect those differences, because i know that NO ONE is perfect and without sin. But i really get pissed when some people believe that others have to believe in and abide by their personal beliefs and try to push those things off on others. Its bullshit and it isn't right. I don't want to hear anyone's intolerant bigotry bullshit and wish that they wouldn't speak to me or acknowledge me at all if that is their intent. 


I make many observations and statements on issues that i believe in and support. But i don't go around arguing my point to people. If someone wants to start with me and argue their point, then yes, most likely i am going to put my two cents in. But i understand that we are all entitled to give and get respect. That we are different and may have different opinions. 


I just don't like when people try to bully others into their beliefs. Or try to put down and belittle someone into thinking badly about their own ideas, thoughts, or opinions. If your opinions, thoughts, or whatever are your's personally and you're not out here forcing them upon people, i really don't care what you personally believe. It's those ignorant individuals that go out spewing hate, ignorance, and intolerance in the world that i cant stand and don't want to have anything to do with. 


If people were perfect to begin with i don't really see that there would be a point in life. I believe we are all given a chance on this earth to grow, love one another, and make a difference for the betterment of mankind as a whole. The more we learn to see the beauty in one another and to help that beauty thrive and grow the better we all are off. This is something i strive for everyday, to listen and understand where people are coming from, the more we understand and accept each other, the more we can understand and accept ourselves. 



Tuesday, November 9, 2010

If you say you don't care, DON'T complain!

Day 9


I know i'm trying to turn over an new leaf and become a happier, nicer, and less complaint prone person, but sometimes shit happens and my anger gets the best of me. So in those moments i just have to rant on about it for a minute. So either leave now, or bare with me...I have just had to tell someone exactly what i think of them and their situation. The situation is that entirely of their doing and that can be helped by them and them only. 


We'll call this person "Example A". Example A is a perfectly well and able adult individual, all except for being abnormally lazy. Example A does not have a job, not because they aren't able of getting a job, they just would rather devote their lives to their numerous hobbies and excuses. This person has absolutely perfected the skill of total avoidance of anything to do in any way, shape or form that can be even in the slightest context be work related. (I think they should've been a politician). 


What gets me about this person is that they are constantly complaining to anyone or thing that will listen...even those of us that have listened, tried to speak reason with them, and have grown so tired of hearing it, but are still forced to hear it until we become so feed up that we want to quite literally slap the shit out of them. Then when finally we hit the breaking point and tell them exactly what we think of the situation, they get mad because their feelings get hurt. But first they say that "it doesn't really bother" them that they are broke and near destitute. 


Well guess what Example A and all the other asses out there that don't want to do anything for themselves to help their situations but endlessly complain about them, IF YOU DON'T CARE, THEN DON'T COMPLAIN! If you cared in the first place about it you might actually do something to try and turn the situation around. There are billions of people in this world with far worse circumstances in life that actually do everything they can everyday to try and get a better life. Millions here in this country alone that go out and look for work everyday and cant find it. Or those people that work 2 and 3 jobs for minimum wage, live paycheck to paycheck and still cant get ahead. 


People that are disabled but want to and wish they could get work and cant. People that live in rural poverty stricken places that cant even feed their children, get educations for themselves or their children to get out of their situations and environments to do better. People that worked hard for companies their whole lives just to be laid off so the work could be shipped over seas to save the company money. They now don't get anything, no benefits or insurance, nothing! Those are the people that i feel bad for. Those are the people that need government assistance and cant always get it, and when they do they feel guilt and shame and all the stigma that is attached to it. 


I pray for those people, that they can find the strength to go on, and hope they are blessed with the things they need in life. Hope they don't feel bad about themselves for maybe needing help to get through the bad times in life. I want them to know there are people out there that do care and want the best not just for themselves and their families, but want what is best for everyone. So Example A, get your shit together, put away the excuses, and do something about your situation. And if you cant do that, then SHUT THE HELL UP! 










Monday, November 8, 2010

Patience Please

Day 8


My name isn't T.I., but i am most definitely "praying for patience". (Haha) It something that i seriously need to have more of, and something i think everyone benefits from having. For their sake and everyone else's around them. I get aggravated too quickly, its not just that people tell me this, i know its a fact on my own. I hate waiting for anyone or anything. I'm usually not just on time for something, i'm usually a few minutes ahead of time. And it really pisses me off when people are late and believe that its an acceptable behavior. 


I know some things cant be helped, but i know some people are habitual offenders. Isn't the purpose of an appointment meant that its a set date and or time. Doctors are usually the ones that cross this line with me the most. Then there is always that old foe the cable company. I have told people in both professions maybe since they cant uphold to time schedules, that i might be late paying for a service and they should consider that okay as well. (I wish i was mean and careless enough to uphold to the threats, but i have bigger priorities than making added late fees to something).


Its rude and a very unappealing quality. One that i get super frustrated with due to my lack of patience. Another thing that frustrates me is when i have to ask more than once or twice...or three times...etc...that one or both of my kids do something or stop doing something. I know they're just kids, but dang...hard headed much? (yes, i said dang...i watched a piece of "Joe Dirt" yesterday and it sticks for a while). Anyhow, that is what happened yesterday when i lost patience because my son would not listen. The loss of patience made me super frustrated and i accidentally deleted my blog files. 


Which by the way i should have not been such an idiot and saved the files on my computer or a disc. But through the mistakes that i and everyone else make, we learn a lesson. Or at least that is what we should be doing. But sometimes that is more trial and error and it takes a few mistakes to learn the lesson. Either way i wish there where easier ways to make these realizations. Like parents wish that their children would learn from their mistakes, mostly they cant. They have to go out into the world and make their own choices and see how the world really works. 


But i ask God to give me better qualities more than to give me better things. Because with better qualities in life i can most certainly go out to do and get better myself. So please on this Monday morning God, bestow me with some more patience that i most certainly will need at some point further in this day so i don't lose it on another individual.  :)

Sunday, November 7, 2010

BLOG DOWN! BLOG DOWN!

HELP! i am in complete and utter crisis mode. i was having to tell my son to stop his bad behavior for oh maybe the millionth time this morning when posting the blog that i had barely got through writing because all the stopping that i had to do, when i accidentally deleted it and all my other blogs. i am a self professed moron when it comes to things technology wise and thought i was posting them on another site and i deleted them, but not their links. Now they come up as they don't exist. I have tried everything i can think of to get them back, because like that moron that resides in my brain from time to time, i didn't also save them on my computer. Just for that alone i think its fates way of pointing and laughing at me this morning and taught me the lesson to save them in another file. Which personally i think fate could have been a nice guy this morning and let me know in a more subtle fashion to not be such a careless dumb ass. Oh but Karma prevails once more. If anyone who happens to venture across this and knows how i can possibly get those blogs back please be a wonderful person and let me know. But until then i am writing this message and confession of idiocy. I will be continuing my daily rant/thoughts until such time is reached, please bare with my crazy self. :D 

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